About the Book

Aurette Bowes with a copy of Someone's Daughter

Someone’s Daughter is the author’s own true account of how, as an adult, she learned that she is not her parents’ biological child, but was adopted by them as a baby in a closed adoption. The book tells of the profound and permanent impact this discovery had on her life and that of her family. It documents the search for her birth mother, their reunion and the development of their relationship thereafter.

Someone’s Daughter relates how the author found emotional healing and learned to embrace her dual identity. Concurrently with telling her story, the author deals with the ongoing, complex dynamics that surround adoption.

Adoption is viewed by most as a happy, joyous event in which a childless couple takes an unwanted baby into their home, selflessly raises it as their own and everybody lives “happily ever after.” Sadly, this perception is far removed from the truth. The very act of adoption necessitates rejection, loss and considerable emotional pain. Few people, including many adoptees, birth mothers and adoptive parents fail to realise that without rejection or loss there can be no adoption.

Someone’s Daughter is primarily aimed at adoptees who are struggling to find healing from the never-ending barrage of emotional issues they encounter throughout their lives as a direct result of their adoption. The book provides them with the information they need to conduct their own legal search for their birth parents.

Birth mothers, adoptive parents, immediate families and depression sufferers will also benefit from reading Someone’s Daughter. It is not a self-help book, but a deeply personal account of the author’s own experience and how she came to find true healing. Whether readers decide to follow the same path is up to them.

  1. Dear Aurette Bowes
    I am shocked that you found out about your biological parents as an adult and sorry that there was so much shame involved in adoption for quite a few generations.
    I am an adoptive parent and evryone that I know in the adoption community
    has told their children about their adoption. From a very early age and on. Some stories are rather ugly and some are not. I do not know anyone and I do mean that sincerly that dose not realize that there has been a great huge loss at the beginning of an adoptees life.
    It is fortunate for you that you were able to connect with your birth mother. My daughter who is almost 14 will not have this oportunity. She is from China and unless at the time of adoption you were able to get some founding information it is nearly impossible for these many many girls to find their birth families. This is a great loss and I am certain that there will be levels of internal struggle and development over this as the years go by for my daughter. I also know that there is another side to this truth which is that if she and many others had not been adopted they would not have the oppotunities that they do have to create fullfilling creative intelligent prosperous lives. I look forward to reading your book.

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