As an adoptee, I know very little about my birth-father. There is so much I would love to ask him but I doubt whether I’ll ever have the opportunity. So I’ve devised a list of questions for birth-fathers, and I’m hoping that your honest answers will provide some resolution for me…
- Did the birth-mother of your child tell you about her pregnancy?
- What was your reaction when you find out about she was pregnant?
- Did you stay in touch with her during her pregnancy?
- Where you in favour of your baby’s adoption?
- Was your permission for the adoption required by law?
- Did you see your child before he/she was given away?
- If you didn’t see your child, do you think doing so would have changed how you felt about the adoption?
- Over the years, did you ever think about the child you had fathered?
- Did you ever try to find out about or search for your child?
- Have you ever met your child?
- If not, would you like to?
- If you had an opportunity to do things differently, what would you change?
- If you married with a family today, do they know about your child?
- If not, why haven’t you told them?
- What are your views on the right of birth-fathers today?
- Any other comments you would like to provide?