Misunderstood and reviled

The publication of an extract of Someone’s Daughter on Parent24.com has caused quite a stir, judging by some of the comments posted by readers.

Even though the positive comments far outweigh the negative, when I first read the latter I was very hurt by their intensity.

“You are a terrible disgrace”, wrote someone who signed their name as ‘?’, accusing me of seeing a lucrative story to write and shame my parents about. “I think you are selfish and saw a story to write about that would make people feel pity on you,” he/she delcared.

“Pull yourself together”, stated ‘casino’, while ‘turbo_superboss’ wanted to know why I was “so ungrateful and angry” at my mother for not telling me.

Of course, I know their comments are based on ignorance. None of these people have read my book and are judging me without knowing all the facts. Yet I still felt hurt, misunderstood and unjustly criticised.

At the same time I was aware of a sense of familiarity to all of this. Then it struck me. Jesus experienced the same unfair judgement and misunderstanding while He was on earth (Luke 17:25) and especially when He hung on the cross. Although He had every opportunity to defend Himself, and with God’s power in Him was more than capable of doing so, He chose not to.

Like my critics, Jesus’ attackers could not (or would not?) see the full picture and consequently, completely misunderstood His message.  Yet, despite all of this, Jesus asked His Father to forgive them for their ignorance just before He died. What compassion, what mercy!

Jesus also warned Christians that they would encounter persecution for His name’s sake: “If the world hates you, know that it has hated me before it hated you” (John 15:18).

The lesson for me is clear. I should expect criticism, but I must show compassion and forgiveness, just as Jesus did. I may have finished writing Someone’s Daughter, but God’s teaching and healing continues. What a blessing.

  1. Hey Aurette,
    You know you are doing something right because if you wer not, they would keep silent! You have a strong voice and you are using it to do some good, always remember that! If you have never read it, I am sending you a quote that helps me get past all the negative talk…~ “NO one can make you feel inferior without your permission.” ~Eleanor Roosevelt

    As for your post, I agree with you about your spirituality and could not agree more! I also posted a blog about God and Adoption, if you would like please take a look! It is called “God Chose Adoption for Jesus”.

    In the mean time, keep your chin up and go forward my friend!
    ALl my best,
    Kelsey Stewart
    Author, The Best For You

    • Hi Kelsey So good to hear from you again! And thank you so much for your encouraging words. I love your quote, it’s so true. I will certainly take a look at your blog. God bless, Aurette

  2. You will always get those people in Society…sometimes low selfesteem the reason why they feel to say something bad to other people as they want other people to feel bad about themselves too. Chin up, I’m sure it’s a great book and I’ve got it on my blog for that reason!

    • Thanks so much for your encouragement. Keep promoting SA!

    • Lydia Dekker
    • December 16th, 2009

    I have mixed feelings about negative critique and feel that you should approach it as; that people who critique something usually take the time to think about the information presented to them and once you thought about it , it is always in your subconscious and will be represented to you if the occasion comes up again. You should take it as a complement – even if they did not read the book and only the abstract they probably will when they have the chance and that they started to think about the problem adoptees could face.

  3. Thanks, Evelyn. Appreciate your support.

    • BB
    • December 11th, 2009

    A very mature Christain attitude. God bless, and I am sure you words will help someone

    • Thank you so much.

        • evelyn
        • December 11th, 2009

        Hi there,as you say the critics haven”t read your book. Keep your head up high your family is right behind you.God Bless you all.

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